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Here at the Emergence office we regularly hear stories which are heartbreaking in the extreme, but also, it is true to say, they are also often uplifting. Since the launch of our website in November 2010 we have wondered how we might be able to share these experiences in a positive way.

All the stories we hear have a number of things in common - they are not only the very source of inspiration behind what we do here at Emergence, and why we do it, but they also provide all of us affected by personality disorder with support, advice and inspiration.

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On The Run: Overcoming Social Anxiety & Avoidance by James

'Hard Life Getting Better' blogs, written by James, are about helping others overcome childhood trauma and the challenges that can arise because of the trauma within a person, such as social anxiety.

I see that inner growth and the very evolution, the growth, of our daily living… is realised through having new experiences. You have got to say “Yes” to life and in this… walk through the many open doors, grasp chances; you must be a risk–taking person if you are to grow in this life. We must risk and also say “YES” to our inspired ideas. In his book, “Yes Man,” the humoured author Danny Wallace shares the universally–relevant point, “when we say yes more to life, then life gets more interesting. So, say YES more to life – your life!”


"My life with an invisible illness" by Natasha

Try and imagine me for 3 to 5 minutes or how every long it takes you to read this.....

My life with an invisible illness

As a child I had a care free life, until the age of eleven, when my life was turned upside down, by the events of other people.

Ever since I’ve felt different from others and not belonging.

My life is always chaotic and never consistent or stable.

The hardest one is I don't know who I am.

I wake up in the morning thinking how am I going to get though another day.

I struggle day by day to get by.

I don't worry like other people, as there is nothing there, or it don't seem important.

I say things- what I think people want to hear, as I am scared to say what I really want to say.

I say one thing, but mean another, then I realise I done it, but it's too late, I have said it.

I am here in person like you

But my mind and feelings are so so different

Times I feel empty or numb

Other times I don't know how I feel.


Mental health problems for nine years: Sarah Clark tells her story

"I have had mental health problems for nine years now, nine whole years of misery, unbearable intolerable emotional pain, and frustration - but not forgetting tiny spurts and sprouts of hope and semi-happiness amongst all this. When I was first diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder I felt angry. I felt it was a label – a label they give to awkward patients who don’t respond so they can blame the patient for not getting better rather then the treatment not working. I felt it was like they were saying my personality was essentially flawed and it challenged my very sense of self and being. However I’ve done a lot of reading about BPD and even had a few articles published by Mind, Rethink and One in Four Magazine and now I can completely understand why I was given the diagnosis. I am passionate about fighting and ending the stigma and discrimination attached to mental illness. I did some volunteering on the Time to Change campaign last year and I also do some sessions from time to time teaching medical students about mental health.


'My Life' by Kaitlyn Logan

"I guess from the age of 12 I knew I was different from my brothers and sisters. I had sleeping problems, stayed awake, cried a lot on my own and also put on a brave face. Life got dramatically worse; when I was 16 I took my first overdose of tablets, cut my wrists and ended up being sectioned in the mental health unit. I was scared but I had my writing, my poetry and since age 11 I could escape everything in the world and myself. So I used this as a coping mechanism and realised I was good at writing. I started drinking, taking drugs and went down a wrong path to say the least by 18- I was under mental health services, doctors, psychiatrists. I couldn’t understand it - why me? I felt scared, alone helpless and hopeless. I thought I wasn’t right in my mind at all and so did other people.


My Borderline Personality Disorder Story – Amanda Green

My three brothers and I were born to my mum whilst she was suffering with catatonic schizophrenia. My mum was in and out of psychiatric hospitals (or asylums as they were called in the fifties) for over twenty years.

Life was different to my friends, growing up. I was bullied about my mum by children at school. Mum was surrounded by stigma from those around her, due to her illness and hospitalisations, and I had issues of my own, some of which were very embarrassing. Any symptoms I had when a child onwards, were not acknowledged because I was an expert at secrecy, and didn’t want to raise awareness of my issues at the time. I promised myself, when aged 16, that I would campaign against stigma when I was ready later in life.


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